The following are helpful ways in dealing with anger:
\n1. DO acknowledge that you are angry.
\nIt is important that you know how to recognize that you are angry, and give yourself permission to feel it. This can be as simple as saying to yourself \u201cI am angry.\u201d Remember, you can\u2019t control something you don\u2019t admit exists!<\/p>\n
2. DO calm yourself before you say anything.
\nIn the previous discussions, we saw how there is a biological reason why anger can feel overwhelming — our body is engaged in a fight or flight response. It helps then to defer any reactions until you have reached the return to normal\/ adaptive phase of the anger cycle. Otherwise, you might end up saying or doing something that you\u2019d later regret. Count 1 to 10!<\/p>\n
3. DO speak up, when something is important to you.
\nThis is the opposite to \u2018keeping it all in.\u2019 If a matter is important to you, so much so that keeping silent would just result in physical and mental symptoms, then let it out. If it\u2019s not possible to speak to the person concerned, at least look for a trusted friend or a mental health professional.<\/p>\n
4. DO explain how you\u2019re feeling in a manner that shows ownership and responsibility for your anger.
\nTake ownership and responsibility for your feelings. This makes the anger within your control (you can\u2019t control other people). One way to take ownership and responsibility for your anger is through the use of I-messages, which would be discussed in a later module.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
The following are helpful ways in dealing with anger: 1. DO acknowledge that you are angry. It is important that you know how to recognize that you are angry, and give yourself permission to feel it. This can be as simple as saying to yourself \u201cI am angry.\u201d Remember, you can\u2019t control something you don\u2019t […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[12,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-209","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-self-development","category-soft-skills"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=209"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":247,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/209\/revisions\/247"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=209"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=209"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emcortes.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=209"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}